So what is domestication? It is the trait that resides in most of us that causes us to act without questioning or thinking. It is also a trait where by we accept all judgements of ourselves passively believing those judgements to be valid because they are put upon us by those who we look up to for guidance. It is also the basis for our self doubt and fears, because when we try doing something different or acting somehow differently, we are told that we are either not worthy or that we are wrong, so we instinctively give up believing we will fail before we even begin. It can manifest in other forms too, through to what we eat, to how we dress and how we act along with what beliefs we hold both religiously and politically.
So the question is how do we break free from this indoctrination that we have undergone? Well this like all change is difficult and requires hard work, patience and perseverance. The reality is we will try to remember to question everything, we will try to reject that which we instinctively feel is no longer right for us but may fail due to the pressures of those around us who are still slaves to their own domestication and who wish to maintain control over us. So understanding that though we may fail, life is often about practice and you need to keep going until you conquer these failures. Remember failure only truly happens when we don’t try or give up trying.
So to break our domestication we need to adopt ways of spotting when we automatically do things that restrict us or do not wish these things to define us and that may limit our potential or creativity. Once we have identified these issues we then need to find mechanisms to stop ourselves from doing them. The best way is when people say that what you are doing and the way you do it is wrong or criticise your desire to change your thinking and beliefs or even our lifestyle and dress sense, then this is the time to be strong and to realise that this is their perception and that you are happy with these choices. They will not like this as they realise that you are breaking out of your indoctrinated mold and they will fear losing the control and influence they have held over you in order to manipulate you. Hold firm know that this is in your own best interest. When doing this be mindful of the fact that this will cause upset and anguish. So be compassionate and kind in how you go about it. Spare others feelings where you can, explain your reasons if that helps and reaffirm your unconditional love and friendship for them. But remain steadfast and strong in your resolve so that they will understand that you are not about to capitulate to their objections or pressure just so they can be happy. You deserve happiness to and that will not happen living your life vicariously through others.