fauxcroft

Having two families is tough to balance. The balance between my 3 kids from my first marriage and my son from my present relationship where there are also other children involved who are my partners is quite a difficult one to manage. I know the focus and the thoughts should be evenly spread but my daughter’s who are all grown up are not getting enough my son who is 5 gets a lot but the others who are my partners actually demand and dominate the time and energy the most. They drain their mum and stress me out, despite my best efforts to stay focused on my inner peace, love and strength. It’s easy to say what the best thing to do is but the fact is it those who are up in your face demanding and pleading for help and attention that end up getting it, and that is unfair. So I fully empathise with anyone who tries to balance any kind of family relationships because in the end if those you are trying to deal with are negative attention seekers who are quite toxic to you and your life, you find yourself fire fighting the whole time, and even though my partners kids are adults they still remain the most demanding. Some say make them stand on their own feet but it is hard when they won’t and be empathic people we can’t just cut them adrift and see if they swim or drown. The juxtaposition and duality of the situation is that we care and they know and abuse that against us and we can’t cut them off and they know that too and use it against us and so slowly it ends up destroying you because you care too much. Then the guilt then sets in about those who don’t get your attention, even though they don’t use it against you. That then eats away at you each moment of your life. I guess all that you can do is learn lessons from this the best you can and hope that it helps you grow spiritually. Anyhow I don’t usually go off on a woe is me kind of blog so know that it is just a dark moment that will soon pass as life takes back over. I wish all here at WP many blessings and much love and peace. Namaste to all.